Highgate Cemetery

October 28, 2016








Happy Friday everyone! I’ve just begun ten days of “holiday” and I’ll be patchy at best on social media for the next few days! These photos were taken on an afternoon out with Bel – her account of the day is here. It’s quite rare I pose for outfit shots these days in part because I am a very unnatural poser, and in part because I struggle writing anything interesting in the accompanying text. With these photos I found I had endless ideas of what to write about.

I could talk about this dress. James bought it for me back in 2011 and I wore at my first ever singing gig. I could talk about how I’ve stopped thinking of Bel as a “blog friend” and is now just a mate. I could talk about these new boots, a tad on the expensive side at £25 but vintage, SO comfortable and clearly built to last. I could talk about how cemeteries have always seemed comforting and welcoming, rather than creepy, to me.


Instead I’ll talk about what me and Bel talked about, which was: is it ethically sound to take outfit photos in a graveyard? We agreed that staying off to one side, with graves essentially out of shot, was the way forward. Our focus was this giant tree and the autumn colours, rather than the tombs. I’ve blogged a lot about death, and parks, and places in London. To me, I’m kind of featuring the cemetery as a place to go and visit rather than a convenient outfit location.

If I was posting regular outfits then maybe I’d feel differently? I don’t know. I do think using a graveyard and tombstones as an on-trend Halloween set seems a bit off-colour to me. Maybe we’ve gone too far by being in the graveyard for our photos, rather than outside or in a park or something? There’s no “rules” in blogging and therefore etiquette and blogging “ethics” are subjective. I’m eager to hear your thoughts. What do you think? Would you ever blog in a graveyard?








4 comments so far.

4 responses to “Highgate Cemetery”

  1. I loooved the pictures! I like cemeteries since early childhood – like 6 years old – so I loved this post! I don’t like posing for outfits either, though I normally show once a week-outfits, for this reason: just once, while other post 3 outfits a week. And you can see I am always a bit stiff, I don’t jump, look at the side, pull my hair (the agony pose), hahaha! I’ve been trying to change a bit, but that’s simply not me. So I get what you mean and yet, I loved the pictures – you are doing it well! Loved the dress James gave to you! Again, I loved the pictures and the post! Hope you have a lovely Sunday!

  2. Laura says:

    i love graveyards and i love reading posts about them! i’ve also taken outfit photos at graveyards but i suppose that is a bit in bad taste.. if i saw someone doing it i would probably think they’re being a bit disrespectful. you’re so right about there not really being a blogging etiquette! i think it depends a lot on the way in which the graveyard or cemetery is written about and other factors, like i don’t think i’d pose for pictures in front of graves that people actively come to visit but older ones are different in a way. you know?
    anyway, i also love your dress! and now i’m looking forward to reading all of your blog posts that i’ve missed while i’ve been away! xxx

  3. Jane says:

    I actually love graveyards, so I love these photos. Sometimes I feel like my fascination with them is a little bit disrespectful. Usually if I’m posting photos featuring headstones I only post shots of the really, really old ones.

  4. AMereKat says:

    I really like your photos!

    I feel that while cemeteries should always be treated with respect, what that respect means differs depending on how old the graves are – the dead themselves are (within my understanding of the world) beyond caring, so the greatest risk is of hurting people whose relatives are buried there. I love old cemeteries, and often walk around them, pointing things out to whoever I’m with, and taking pictures of old graves – but I don’t feel comfortable doing the same in cemeteries or graveyards with recent graves.

    I like the idea of older cemeteries as parks where people can walk around, learning about the history of the place through the graves of people who lived and died there. The stones are often aesthetically pleasing, and I think it’s not disrespectful to appreciate them even within a goth aesthetic (which often goes hand-in-hand with death awareness). I also want them to be used so that their value is seen and they remain well-maintained – particularly during a time of cuts, I want these green, quiet places to be kept open for us. And walking around them then posting pictures is a great way to appreciate them, and to demonstrate their value to others.

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